Piles on the Stairs: Proceed with Caution

The other day, I put a couple of papers on the stairs to take up with me next time I go up.  I told my husband that’s why I put them there.  Then he asked a very sensible question: “Should we get a basket to collect things on the stairs?”

NO!

Right now, those papers are intruders on the stairs. They are the only things there, and they don’t belong. I’ve made a pact with myself that if something is on the stairs, I MUST take it up with me the next time I go.  But, if there is a basket there, I know that things will begin to “live” in the basket.  The basket gives those papers, socks, gadgets, etc. permission to be on the stairs. Once things have permission to be there, the longer they will stay. read more

A New Coat of Paint

Just because everything is different doesn’t mean anything has changed. -Irene Peter

I was riding in the car with my friend and her four year old daughter recently when the car started making a screeching type sound.  Not being a car-savvy person, I could offer little to no assistance on the matter; however, my friend’s daughter knew just what to do.

“Mommy, I know how to fix it.  Paint the car red.  Red cars are good.”

We laughed at her adorable precociousness, but really, don’t we often do that in our own lives?  We stick to the surface, slapping a fresh coat of paint over a problem, thinking that will fix everything when really the issue is deep-rooted and often requires a major shift in attitude, belief, patterns, and systems.  We rearrange our homes (and our lives) but don’t really change anything because the real work, the important work, is hard and takes time.  But well worth the effort, especially when over time we can look back and see a real, and lasting, difference in our lives. read more